Are you in a relationship with a man who has children, or have you ever been in one? What was it like, did he and his baby mama have a good relationship, and were they able to co-parent in a harmonious way?
Personally, I have been in many relationships with men who had children, some serious and some not so serious. I have experienced the ones who always had something negative to say about their child's mother or some who were probably still sleeping with their baby mama, but tried so hard to hide that fact by having mean or bad things to say about her. Either way, why is it so hard for men/women to move on and co-parent in a loving and healthy way?
What is it about HIS BABY MAMA? Is HIS BABY MAMA making it difficult for him to have a relationship with his child? Is HIS BABY MAMA in a relationship herself and dealing with a guy who is insecure about the child's father? Is HIS BABY MAMA still in love with him, and have not gotten over the fact that they are no longer together? Is HIS BABY MAMA actually a nice woman who he may not be over?
There are so many scenarios, some that can actually evolve into wonderful functioning co-parent relationships, but may require both parents getting over him/herself & working things out for the sake of their children. If both would look at the situation in terms of being adults who use to have some kind of love for each other, and wish each other the best and do what needs to be done in order to be the best parents they can be...Change Gonna Come! And unfortunately there are those scenarios that seem like they will never be worked out. However, if that is the case, it may require some type of professional or family intervention to get things moving forward towards harmony, for the sake of everyone involved.
If you are dealing with a HIS BABY MAMA situation, what should you do, or better yet, should you do anything? What are your options? Take the time to really evaluate the situation, and be honest with yourself and your feelings. And make sure you are not trying to make something a situation due to your own insecurities or issues with your baby daddy.
If you are a Baby Mama, like so many are - lets make sure we are on our job of being a good parent, making sound decisions, being good role models and not putting our child(ren) in any situation that is detrimental to their health or happiness. And be careful who you bring around your child(ren), ask questions, watch, listen and be relentless in your search for true Love, and for God's sake - have some Self Esteem!
We will definitely be revisiting this topic as I have much to say. Please share your thoughts, stories, questions or concerns, thank you.